Dating Therapy

When we realized we were regularly discussing dating in therapy, we started thinking about dating therapy as a thing.  We also started seeing articles like these which confirm that it is a thing!  Instead of worrying about disclosing that you are in therapy, the idea that you are improving yourself can be a big positive!  You might also consider that dating someone in therapy is a plus.

NY Times – Regarding dating “She has one nonnegotiable : He must be working on his mental health, preferably in regular therapy”

USA Today – “After dating someone for about 10 months, Kelly Wolfe called it quits for one particular reason: He wasn’t into therapy.”

What is Dating Therapy?

In our view, Dating therapy is essentially regular therapy where one of your topics that we discuss is dating.  Dating therapy can help you define what you want out of a relationship and a date. Dating is a process, and we can assist you in making it more pleasant. You can discover new things about yourself and enhance your life in general. 

It seems like your next relationship is just a click away, thanks to the plethora of online dating apps and matchmaking services out there. Dating apps are excellent for exploring new people, but they can also be time-consuming and tedious.   Dating isn’t always rainbows and butterflies and Prince charming doesn’t always save you and live happily ever after. 

It’s no wonder so many of us have such negative feelings—such as trust issues and fears of commitment—when it comes to dating and relationships.

Our dating lives can be negatively impacted by our unconscious issues, making it difficult for us to attract the right partner and maintain healthy relationships in the long run. However, do not give up.  Instead of waiting for your prince or princess to come save you, our therapists help you recover and become the best version of you so you can make room for the right person. Is it really a cliche that you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you back? It’s actually very true, and we’re here to help you get there.

How Dating Therapy Can Help You.

We can assist you in discussing your dating behavior and relationships in a safe environment. 

  • We can help you to learn your dating style 
  • You’ll gain confidence in your decision-making to clarify what you want
  • We can assist you in growing your dating skills
  • You can learn your attachment style which developed when you were young
  • You’ll start picking people that are equal to or better than you
  • There is no judgment and no outside influence here. 
  • You can learn how to handle ingrained communication patterns that are preventing you from having the relationship you desire. 
  • You will feel more appreciated and loved as a result of reducing stress and struggle.
  •  You will have increased intimacy as a result of increasing trust. 
  • You can discover the ‘missing link’ to relationship happiness – deeper emotional connection

Break out of your pattern!

Have you ever asked yourself why you keep being attracted to the same type of individual? Have you ever wondered why you always seem to be the one to be dumped? Have you ever wondered if you’ll ever be able to address those trust issues for good? You can get answers to all of these in individual counselling. Working on and through these issues can position you for finally finding the right relationship and feeling good about yourself in it! 

It is difficult to resist our instincts and habits, whether they are positive or negative. You may be unconsciously drawn to people with alcoholic fathers, abusive mothers, or parents who were emotionally withholding as a result of having parents with the same traits. What therapy can assist you to recognize these patterns is that we are drawn to what we know. You can identify these patterns by discussing the characteristics you grew up with, the sort of person you keep being drawn to, and how you can change this behaviour. When you break this habit, you can choose healthier, more fulfilling friendships and relationships. 

Are you dating people who are only looking for casual relationships without a strong emotional connection?  Let’s talk about why you are drawn to these kinds of people and how to avoid this in the future.

Dating Therapy via DBT

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) can be a helpful modality for addressing your dating issues or personal struggles in general. DBT targets negative, irrational belief systems that may be keeping you from progressing. Once you discover your irrational convictions, you can dispute them with more reasonable arguments.  You will eventually be able to think in new ways and move through life with more confidence and peace, if you stick with the program.

Please visit our specialty page on Dialectical Behavior Therapy for more information.

Our Therapists

Getting an external perspective is often helpful.  Our therapists are trained in the latest research and methods to help you understand yourself better, make subtle changes, and help you on the journey to establish a lasting, healthy relationship.  Successful dating starts with understanding yourself and how you think, feel, and function.  Feeling satisfied with who you are as a person also helps.  It can be hard to face up to why your previous relationships haven’t worked out. It is crucial to consider your previous relationship patterns in order to make a change to your love life.  Our therapists are trained to offer insights that are difficult for you to see. 

Dating Help in the Denver Area

Let’s figure out how to help you.  Please contact our Client Care Coordinator for your complimentary 20-minute phone consultation today and read more about our services on the front page of our website.  We have offices in Lakewood CO & Longmont CO and are happy to do Online therapy.

Self Care Impact Counseling envisions a new age of counseling for adolescents, adults, couples & groups that makes a REAL difference with core values of GROWTH | BALANCE | COMPASSION | INNER HARMONY.