Couples Therapy

Marriage is not sustained by grand gestures alone. It is built, day after day, through the small and ordinary moments that most couples barely notice until they stop happening. The vows you exchanged on your wedding day probably included something about sickness and health, richer and poorer. Those words are beautiful. They are also abstract. … Read more

Most of us think of couples therapy as talking. You sit across from your partner: you take turns describing what went wrong and try to think your way to a resolution. But something I see again and again in my Longmont practice tells a different story. One partner’s arms are crossed before the conversation even … Read more

When the same pattern keeps showing up You’ve started to notice the rhythm. At first it just feels like a coincidence, but then the pattern becomes impossible to ignore. You find yourself drawn to the emotionally unavailable; the ones you have to chase. Or perhaps you’re more of a giver; pouring yourself out until you’re … Read more

Most people grow up with the assumption that romantic feelings and sexual feelings are the same thing, or at the very least that they always arrive together. You meet someone, you feel a spark, and that spark is supposed to contain everything: the desire for emotional closeness, the desire for physical intimacy, the pull toward … Read more

When most people hear the word “infidelity,” they picture a physical affair. One partner sleeping with someone else. That is the version of betrayal that gets the most attention, and for good reason: it is devastating. But it is also incomplete. In our couples therapy practice, we see just as much damage from forms of … Read more

Sexual Desire Discrepancy: What It Is, Why It Happens, and How Couples Counseling Can Help This is one of the most common things we hear in our office. Not in those exact words, usually. It sounds more like: “I want more and they don’t,” or “They keep pushing and I keep pulling away.” Sometimes it … Read more

Resentment is one of the most common issues we see at our offices in Lakewood and Longmont. It is also one of the most misunderstood. Most couples do not walk through our door saying, “We have a resentment problem.” They say things like, “We keep having the same argument,” or “I just do not feel … Read more

Deciding to start couples therapy is a significant step. For many people, it feels like an admission that something is wrong. At Self Care Impact Counseling, we see it differently. Seeking counseling is not a sign of failure. It is a sign that your relationship matters enough to you that you are willing to invest … Read more

The discovery of an affair creates a specific kind of pain that is difficult to compare to anything else. It is not just the betrayal itself. It is the retroactive contamination of everything you thought you knew. Every memory, every shared moment, every time your partner said “I love you” is now filtered through the … Read more