How EMDR Can Ease Your Struggle with Traumatic Grief

Life is unpredictable and sometimes painful. The experiences we endure can be traumatic. In some cases, these traumas can result in long-term problems. Traumatic grief is all-too-common. Fortunately, this reality is balanced by all of the many proven treatment approaches. The field of trauma recovery is rapidly growing. One of the most popular and promising choices is called Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing or EMDR.

EMDR has an outstanding track record for relieving the distress of trauma and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). To follow, I’ll take you through the basics of this unusual but highly effective option.

The Phases of EMDR

Instead of the use of talk therapy or medication, EMDR uses your rapid, rhythmic eye movements as the path toward healing. I’ll explain more about that after briefly describing the eight phases of treatment. They occur during sic to 20 sessions.

Phase 1:

The client’s history is taken followed by an assessment. This will be the first opportunity to decide what topics or memories will be targeted.

Phase 2:

In this phase, the client is taught skills to help reduce stress.

Phases 3-6:

The specific memory to be targeted is chosen. From there, the client settles on three factors to focus on during the treatment:

  • A visual image
  • A negative belief
  • Sensations or emotions in the client’s body that feel related to the event in question

Phase 7

During the process, the client will be asked to keep a journal of their experiences and feelings. In Phase 7, that log will be examined alongside the therapist. The goal is closure.

Phase 8

Another assessment occurs. The client and the therapist explore the process and discuss the progress that’s been made.

Sounds Great, But How Is This Done?

As the client,  you get to choose a memory of traumatic grief to focus on. You hold it in your mind as a visual image. You also focus on the beliefs and bodily sensations that have become connected to grief. Meanwhile, your EMDR therapist uses rapid finger movements within your field of vision. These movements are similar to the rapid eye movement (REM) that takes place as you dream.

This two-person effort has been found — over and over — to help clients process unresolved traumatic grief. Simultaneously, the negative memories and beliefs are replaced with new, positive images and perspectives. This can result in ending the trauma-related symptoms that are holding you back.

How EMDR Can Ease Your Struggle with Traumatic Grief

Obviously, EMDR is effective as a treatment for trauma and PTSD. So much so that the Department of Veterans Affairs recommends EMDR for returning soldiers struggling with trauma.

As it pertains to traumatic grief recovery, EMDR helps to precisely target your loss. It doesn’t matter if you are working through an unexpected tragedy or a persistent, lingering loss. You and your counselor will address all of the emotions connected with your loss in a safe, supportive space.

By way of your therapists’ help and specific eye movements or tapping, you may find that a significant amount of relief occurs. As emotional pain recedes emotional regulations improve. Thereby, physical discomfort lessens and you can start to derive less suffering from your loss and more meaning.

In addition, research has found EMDR to be equally as potent in dealing with many other serious mental health conditions that may coexist with your grief, e.g.

  • Anxiety
  • Eating disorders
  • Addictions
  • Depression
  • Panic disorders

All of these outstanding outcomes occur without the risky side effects of medication. (However, your may experience some vivid dreams after the first couple of EMDR sessions.) Also, EMDR is a far shorter treatment protocol than traditional talk therapy. The briefness of the process assures a lower dropout rate. In addition, people who have undergone EMDR treatment consistently report long-term benefits.

Starting Your EMDR Treatment

Finally, as you can see, there are many reasons to consider Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. But you probably have more than a few questions. This is normal and I’d be happy to help you find the answers you seek. I would love to help you directly address the painful grief that is impacting your life. EMDR can help get you unstuck. It all begins with a free and confidential consultation. Please feel free to reach out today to make that happen.